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Originally Posted by Hunter Pony
Bullies are just insecure morons who have to scare people into being their friends.
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This is not always true. Speaking as a former bully in my elementary school, I personally was one because I was too scared to just 'be me'. Having grew up in the same classes for a couple years in a row made others call me names, and I got scared and became mean. Insecure, yes to a point; But not a moron! (Was smart enough to, well, grow up eventually? hehe)
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Originally Posted by Hunter Pony
Usually if you stand up to them they will back off and leave you alone. This DOES NOT mean you should fight them, they aren't worth getting in trouble for. But I've learned that if you stand up to them they will usually back off because it's no fun for them if they aren't scaring you and they will move on to someone else.
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I agree. My dad always taught me something similar to this, with a twist: IF you have no alternative and are forced into conflict, make as much noise as possible. This can (and should) get the attention of those passing by, as well as possibly discouraging the would-be bullies from continuing.
Some bullies, like the kind I was, thrive on attention. I would have stood back a bit and laughed, saying something like "You think help will come? HA!" I personally never bothered anyone that was bothered on by another bully. I guess that was because I, too, felt bullied somewhat by other kids, school in general, and maybe even my home life as well. Like I said, well typed, a moment ago: I was smart enough to, well, grow up!
First and foremost, though, don't get into a position where violence could (and most likely would) be involved. Stay near friends you know you can trust. Chose paths to walk that take you near familiar areas and more populated by others. There are loads of things that could help: Ask around!
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Originally Posted by Hunter Pony
If it gets out of hand I'd let an adult know about it though.
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Well said. If you happen to have a cell phone, make sure you have some school office numbers or even a teacher or councilor. It's good to have friends!
After I stopped being a bully, (you know the 'lunch-money' kid, or the 'book tipper', or even the 'I can beat you up' kind), I was never picked on much. I had a chance to get into shape with my dad and uncle so got really buff! Was even asked to play football, but turned it down. I don't like violence any more, period. (I still like a good game though!)
And I have nothing else to add to previous posts as they were all well thought out and helpful/topic oriented!
